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A Gentle Reminder Would Have Been Preferable

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I’ve done it again this year.

I’ve let work consume me. Becoming more focused on what needs to get done than on the people I’m doing it for.

And as always, life has a way of reminding me to wake up. Pay attention. And worry less about what has to get done.

This year’s reminder has come in the form of a few fibroids and a smattering of cysts that decided that it would funsies to throw a party in the right side of my abdomen.


Over the past 19 days, the pain has gone from ignorable, to concerning, to debilitating and on to annoying.

I’m grateful to have answers now (even though I’m still waiting to hear about treatment options other than waiting for the party to wind down on its own) and a prescription for diuretics has made breathing an option again (seriously, hats off to all you ladies who have been pregnant – pressure from below on your diaphragm mades it damn hard to take a breath!).

I’m home from work again for a second day this week and I’ve been teaching sitting down with a heating pad when I am there. The list of tasks I need to accomplish before winter break has been ignored because by the time my planning period arrives, I’m doing well to not be crying on the floor.

It’s a good reminder that the body won’t go forever. That taking care of myself is just as important as taking care of others. That the world will go on even if I step back for a day or two. And that middle schoolers can be sweet beneath their often-surly exteriors.

The funny thing is that a much more friendly and furry reminder to enjoy the moments will be joining our family this Sunday.


Meet Emma, an 18-month-old sweetie and soon-to-be little sister for Kazh. Here the pups are on their first meeting. My husband is seriously the dog whisperer. I love how Emma is looking at Kazh to learn how to act!



Her foster mom has done an amazing job with her and I know that she’s going to have a hard time letting go. I am so grateful for the opportunity to welcome this pup into our pack and I can’t wait to see her learn and grow into a confident and balanced pittie:)



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8 thoughts on “A Gentle Reminder Would Have Been Preferable

  1. I have just been diagnosed with a heart condition. Not quite “ broken heart syndrome”, but I am convinced the toll of the last few years since my ex left me for a much younger woman, has had an adverse effect on my health. I used to do boxing, weight lifting, dancing, rambling… now need to take things easier until I find out how serious it is.
    Yet again, his life gets better and mine spirals downwards. Seems unfair.

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