PTSD After Divorce

6 Responses

  1. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. Your post has spoken to me on such a personal level. I had a very shocking experience in learning about my husbands affair and him leaving me then and there. I thought we were blissfully happy and it just blew my whole world up within an instant. It was like he became a stranger from that moment. I am still in the early days of things but months on and the shock still feels so huge. Thank you for sharing your story, it’s such an awful and life changing thing you have gone through and I think you are amazing to be sharing your story 🙂

  2. paigepugmom says:

    Describes my feelings post-divorce exactly. Well written.

  3. Jodi K Carter says:

    I encourage all to seek out therapists who work with PTSD patients. I did EMDR therapy (developed to move memories from short-term to long-term –created from working with Vietnam Vets) and Somatic Experiencing (SE) which helped moved my emotional experiences through (and out) of my body. My physical responses were parallel to those with PTSD (no period, unable to sleep, saliva glands not working). It was not a quick (worked with my therapist weekly, then biweekly, for 4 or 5 years–this was after a 25 year marriage, and then monthly or so for another few years) outcome. I’m now nearly 9 years out and for the past two years have just seen my therapist 1-3 times per year, when a need has arisen. Hope, strength, and peace to all as you walk this challenging path.

  4. Anonymous says:

    Jodi, thanks for your post . I’m so relieved hearing that having triggers 8 years after is normal.

  5. Robin says:

    Oh hell, I just drank a lot. The grief was so strong that at times I could feel its fingers closing in around my heart. Went on a date once and told the guy that I was pretty sure I would die soon because of heart failure. Because I could feel my heart changing with every single beat.
    Flashbacks, memory issues, hell, just even getting into the shower were problems for me. And it hurt like hell. It burned, it scorched, it engulfed every single bit of happiness I ever had. It sucked. If you are going through this right now, it sucks. Thank you for reminding us that we are heard.
    And if you are going through this, please know that it really, truly, honestly does get better. And it takes time and work and a lot of time, but it does get better.
    I was sitting on my screened porch with a cat on my lap and realized that my cup really was overflowing… embrace those moments.
    And realize that you are worth it.
    Thank you Lisa. You’ve been an amazing help throughout my own journey…

    • stilllearning2b says:

      Thank you for sharing and I’m so glad you’re seeing the sun agin! Give that sweet cat a scratch for me:)

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