Why Rock Bottom is a Powerful Place

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  1. Arya says:

    I really needed this post today. Sometimes I feel like I can’t breathe.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I took a handful of clothes. It was then l truly realized that ‘stuff’ is just stuff. We really need very little. I don’t attach meaning to my belongings anymore. I was fortunate to have family and friends who helped with the basics… Don’t think lve recovered very well but at least l value the basics in life. I try not to attach myself.

  3. What a beautiful testimony to your inner strength! i think it is the times of adversity that allow the most growth, but who wants to go there?! Kudos and thank you for sharing.

  4. Le Divorcée says:

    I love this!!! Beautifully written and so true. When your down, there is no place to go but up.

  5. Reblogged this on Old Black Waters and commented:
    The struggle is not to allow others to define the bottom on terms of their own issues.

  6. The Cad says:

    Reblogged this on Old Black Waters and commented:
    “It’s easy for me to have an opinion, it’s not my pain.” – A True Friend

    The struggle is not to allow others to define the bottom, or solution, in terms of their own experiences. Everyone brings their own biases, predjudices, ignorance, and experience to other people’s pain.
    Arrogance tries to convince us we have some special insight into the inner workings of other people. All too often we make value judgements about what should be the consequences and punishment in situations we are only tangenially involved with. We’re all experts in someone else’s pain and motivations.
    Someone recently suggested, I need to take responsibility for what I did, but when pressed for what that means, because I’m willing to listen to their ideas, they had nothing to offer but ghost stories.
    One of the most difficult aspects of my life today is not to let other people’s ignorance, fears, or anger define my identity.
    I have great qualities and bring great passions to my relationships. I’m curious about people and places. I like to explore and encourage people. I also have flaws. I’m not perfect and that means I’m human.
    For some people that will never be enough.

  7. So here we are 11 years later after our own war, when we were at rock bottom. You are right there is nowhere else to go but up and you learn so much along the way. If someone were to ask us if we could go back and for it not to happen would we? The answer would be no! Because we learned so much and it changed our lives for the better in so many ways; not least I am writing a book about ‘The War’ with reflections on how we got where we are today – In France, living a simple life and happy. I won’t be telling others what they need to do, just our story and what I did – then what we did – and for some people some of it may resonate and help.

    Keep going……

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