A place that brings dread.
That no one would choose to visit.
And yet it is also a place of mysterious power.
That allows us to tap into the power within ourselves.
Because when you’re at Rock Bottom you have…
Nothing to Lose
In one moment, I lost my husband, my money, my dogs, my home, my health and almost my sanity. I went from a middle class suburbanite to someone who was technically homeless (at least according to the 2010 census) and could fit all of her belongings in her car.
I realized during that period how much I had become attached to those things in my life. And how, in many cases, I had assigned them more weight than they actually carried.
Rock Bottom is a time of non-attachment. Of acceptance of the non-permanence of life and our own locus of control.
Nothing to Fear
My biggest fear in life was always losing my husband. So when I eventually did lose him, it was actually kind of a relief. Not because I wanted him gone (not at first), but because I had lost my main reason to fear.
And that was incredibly freeing.
I found myself taking risks that I would not have taken earlier, exchanging the “sure thing” for a “let’s try this and see what happens.” I worried less and lived more.
When you’re at Rock Bottom, you’re not worried about falling. After all, that’s already happened and you’re still breathing.
Nothing to Hide From Yourself
I spent years confusing desire with belief, wanting so badly for certain things to be true that I convinced myself that they were. And refusing to look too closely when something whispered otherwise.
I believed on some level that I couldn’t handle the truth and so I operated to protect myself. Until I couldn’t any longer. And once on that cold, hard floor, I had two realizations: 1) I was facing it head on and 2) I was strong enough to do so.
When you fall to Rock Bottom, the lenses of your rose-colored glasses shatter. At first, the world may seem harsh. But eventually, you’ll realize that clarity provides you with a sense of peace.
Nothing But Opportunity
I spent so much of my adult life reacting without much thought to what I wanted. He needed to move in order to work? I dropped everything and relocated after living alone for a year. He lost his job and I needed to find steady employment? Teaching career, check.
I stopped thinking about what I wanted, put my head down and barreled through. And I didn’t stop until I hit the earth, stunned into silence.
We spend much of our lives simply taking one step in front of the other after we’ve decided which direction to go. Rock Bottom is a pause. An opportunity for reassessment. Do you still want to follow your same path or is it time for something new? This is your chance.
Your stay at Rock Bottom will be fleeting.
Make the most of it.