Let the Things That Hurt You, Change You

“I just want to go back to how things were.”

Have you ever uttered those words? Experienced that sentiment?

I know I have.

Had that desire for a time machine or, at the very least, a teflon skin that deflects any residue of experience.

A feeling that I’m somehow worse for wear, a sweater carelessly thrown into the dryer, its once-secure weave now shrunken and puckered and pilling.

I sometimes wish I had experienced an air-dry life, gentle and considerate, leaving me washed and yet untouched.

But then I think about having that kind of life. Living like you’re the prized possession too valuable to be removed from the box.

And what’s the point of a life that isn’t really lived?

I’d rather live to the fullest. Take risks. Feel the pain and wear the scars. Embrace the collisions with life as an opportunity to transform.

And to allow those things that hurt me, change me.


Thank you for sharing!

5 thoughts on “Let the Things That Hurt You, Change You

  1. Lisa, thank you so much for this post. It is beautifully and perfectly worded, and it helps my aching-yet-hopeful-and-happy-heart. Bless you for your continued commitment to yourself and to all of us! 🙂

  2. A Familiar Stranger – Middlesbrough, North East England – My name is Matthew Williams, single father to two wonderful children, making it up as I go along. I am a blogger and author. I started my blog, Love, Laughter & Truth, in December 2015 as I attempted to make sense of my rollercoaster life following depression, divorce, and my introduction to the weird world of dating. My first book, Something Changed: Stumbling Through Divorce, Dating & Depression, was published in paperback by Sixth Element Publishing in December 2017, and is available to buy on Amazon. You can find my writing at https://lovelaughtertruthblog.com/ I hope to see you there!. Very best wishes Matthew
    Love, Laughter & Truth says:

    Love this, if can be hard to take that risk after the pain of divorce, but without embracing opportunities- and the risks they bring – we’ll never reach our peak and we’ll never grow.

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