Biting My Tongue Until It Bleeds

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  1. I found myself nodding YES to most of this!! I can so relate…

  2. Mary Lou says:

    Really a great post! Especially liked the ‘self-doubt’ and the link you provided. Thanks!! 🙂

  3. zombiedrew2 says:

    I can relate to most of this. Self doubt is one piece I don’t really have, as I have learned to accept and love myself as I am. Really, belief in myself is the main thing that keeps my afloat when times are tough.

    But in an attempt to “not rock the boat” or to “choose my battles” I have realized I have spent most of my life avoiding conflict. Not saying I want to embrace conflict now, but after 40+ years of avoiding it, learning when I need to speak up and what I need to say is a bit of a challenge.

    I’m trying, but it sure isn’t easy.

  4. Madeline Harper says:

    Great post. I found myself thinking “that’s exactly me”. Ah. We all have so much to learn

  5. This is great, but I am very opposite of most of what you write, it does remind me of my ex, he would always pretend everything was fine, until he would explode about something I did 2yrs ago. This did help me understand much better, thank you. Also you can communicate for sure in this writing perfectly. I’m glad your getting over that, I always felt it is better to hurt me with your opinion briefly than lie for a lifetime. Fine progress.

  6. tracihalpin says:

    I have a quote I wrote :
    Choose discomfort over resentment.
    Not easy, but necessary. Just keep trying and doing your best. I’ve overcome many of the things you mentioned, but a thread of them still lives inside me. I need to slow down and pay attention to my feelings and like you said figure out what needs to be expressed or ignored.

  7. Lyn says:

    I so relate to everything you wrote. As I child I learned to keep my feelings stuffed down and to this day I will often freeze in a difficult situation. Like you, I like to wait until I’ve processed what happened before I respond. I’m very sensitive and often stop to think about whether a “normal” person would get upset over the same situation. “Don’t blurt out something you can’t take back” has always been my motto. However, I also tend to sacrifice myself to keep the peace. Luckily, I’m getting a little better about speaking up, thanks to encouragement from the man I’m dating.

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