Why We’re Wrong When We Talk About Trust

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  1. I love this post. Yes to all you say. Gives me hope to trust again and be trusted. Thank you!

  2. zombiedrew2 says:

    One of the hard things that I believe is reality…

    …to trust, you have to let the other person in and open yourself up to be hurt. But also, you have to accept that you WILL sometimes be hurt. As you said, even the best intentioned people will make mistakes, and will have moments that they are ignorant or selfish. That’s part of human nature.

    So yes, you will be hurt by the people you trust. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t worthy of trust. What matters is how they respond to those moments. Do they brush them off as nothing, or treat them as “your issue”, or do they own up to what they have done and try to be better next time?

    Relationships aren’t always easy, but hopefully you are always building and improving.

  3. Matt says:

    This was really well said, Lisa. I particularly enjoyed the part where you found a way to find the positives in thoughtless words and actions by your husband.

    It means he’s sometimes accidentally hurtful but never intentionally manipulative.

    I’ve always felt there was a huge difference between those things and am particularly sensitive to it.

    I’m pretty good at dealing with accidents. And I get incredibly upset on those rare occasions when people go out of their way to inflict harm.

    Hope you’re well!

  4. Absolutely incredible piece! Great job!

  5. Patrick says:

    Well done on the subject of trust and dissolution. I’ve concluded that I cannot allow the broken trust of another to be projected onto the lady I’m courting (we’re both old school). But we also must learn from our mistakes. I always enjoy reading your posts since you are a few years ahead on this journey.

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