Dealing With Anger – You Have to Understand It Before You Release It

9 Responses

  1. *Really* enjoyed this. Thank you.

    Best, Mike.

  2. Patrick says:

    Great post! I found it both informative about what has happened and encouraging that I’m on the right path. Thanks for taking the time to write this post.

  3. tywood12 says:

    Reblogged this on My New Life.

  4. I have two minds about this emotion because it was one I heavily suppressed in the beginning and probably I shouldn’t have. At the time I worked on burying it because I was afraid of becoming an angry person. I did not want divorce to turn me into an angry person. However, I can see now that the real reason I could not feel anger was because my self-esteem became so low that I did not feel worthy of my own feelings. I still felt I had to play the part of ‘the solid rock’ as I had been throughout my entire marriage. Gradually as I felt stronger, I allowed myself the right to feel anger at what had happened. It took me quite a while – to accept anger and allow myself to feel it. Feeling anger allowed me to understand that I have rights too. I have the right to my own feelings, my own opinions, my own beliefs, and my own needs. I have the right to be treated fairly. I have the right to control my own life. I would never have reached those places of strength without allowing anger to be felt.

    However, acting on anger is something entirely different. It takes a lot of courage to feel anger yet act with grace and dignity; grace being respect for others, dignity being respect for self.

    This is a great post Lisa. It really made me think.

    • Excellent point about not believing you’re worthy of your feelings. Very common with women and anger as we’re often coached in childhood to play nice no matter what. And what a great example of the purpose of anger. It definitely can help us grow and become powerful in ourselves.

  5. You and I must be vibing. I wrote on anger today, as well. 🙂 xo

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