Why I Don’t Want a Perfect Marriage

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  1. Bugsmetwo says:

    Reblogged this on My Life is a Soap Opera and commented:
    Oh how I like this. It says so many wonderful things about a good marriage. I hope I can have this too, not perfect by any means but workable.

  2. Human beings aren’t even close to being “perfect”. Our obsession with plastic surgery, diets, etc make that apparent. Not to mention every culture has their own values when it comes to what is considered desirable or not.

  3. Lol, you said you don’t want someone to always agree with you. I want someone who doesn’t always try to convince me he is right. Someone who will tell me his point of view and then let me make my decision.

  4. Michelle says:

    Great post – a lot of good points here!

  5. Lovely way of putting it Lisa. Especially the part about already being whole.

  6. Reblogged this on SassaFrass, The Feisty and commented:
    I think A LOT of people go into any kind of relationship with this mentality of “Perfection” and forget that we all need to remember what is “REAL”. I used to want happiness, but I learned it had to come from me first, and that my husband couldn’t give me what I was seeking to validate because of his engrained resentment towards me. I had to let alot go, including my expectations of our marriage. I’m ok right now. I’ve learned and I continue to grow, and I hope one day that I can have a real relationship and marriage to someone that challenges me and I challenge them. This is what Life is about-challenges, learning, adapting and growing. <3

  7. zombiedrew2 says:

    I love this post. If you go in search of perfection, you are bound to end up disappointed. Perfection is an ideal, it doesn’t exist. Conflict will always happen, and that’s not a bad thing. Conflict is how we learn, grow, and build understanding of each other. But for some reason conflict is treated as a flaw, or a sign that something “isn’t perfect”.

  8. I agree–if you need a mate to complete you, something is already wrong.

  9. Very well put…My first marriage was far from anywhere being considered perfect. It was a total “train wreck” However I considered my second marriage to be perfect in all aspects. Next time around I am in agreement with what you have written.

  10. The way you described your first marriage struck a chord with me. Like you, been there, done that!

  1. March 11, 2019

    […] I also looked for concrete signs in my second husband that he wasn’t afraid of imperfection and that he had a proclivity to repair rather than replace. My ex was concerned about appearances. How he was perceived. Weakness and flaws were to be feared and concealed. In contrast, my second husband sees cracks as an opportunity for creative problem-solving and reworking. I’m still learning from him on that one. […]

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