“Why can’t I be healed already!” I cried in frustration as I (over)reacted to yet another trigger.
We often expect healing to occur on our timeline. We seek to control the process and provide a deadline for the outcome.
But healing doesn’t work that way.
It’s two steps forward. One step back. And then a cha-cha slide detour to the left.
With the occasional fall off a cliff.
One of the biggest tricks our brains play on us is the idea that the way we feel right now is the way we will always feel.
It’s not.

If you are feeling stuck after your divorce, these posts will help move your journey along:


Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Are you sabotaging yourself? You may be surprised.
All infidelity is not created equal. Understanding that can help stop you from comparing your situation to others.

Healing is not about giant leaps. It’s about baby steps. One step at a time.


Are you convinced that you need to understand why it happened in order to move on? Careful. It’s a trap.

You know the five love languages, but do you know the five voices of divorce? You should, because they’re speaking to you.




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This is the spirit i need