It’s Not You, It’s Me

One of the unexpected gifts that I gained with a tsunami divorce is that I didn’t have my ex around to target. I mean, sure I blamed him, but that only took me so far and eventually I had to focus on what I could impact – myself. I’ve carried that perspective into my new marriage; when something in the relationship needs tweaking, I adjust myself rather than looking to change my partner.

This article on Psychology Today presents some great ways to shift your focus in a way that can help you improve, whether you’re in a relationship or in the fallout of a relationship.  Because the best part of accepting your responsibility is that you have the power to change it.

 

 

Thank you for sharing!

11 thoughts on “It’s Not You, It’s Me

  1. shadus713 – Read the very first post and you'll learn all you need to know about me and why I am here. As in why I am blogging, not the real question of, Why am I here? kinda thing. You're on your own with that.
    shadus713 says:

    Yes! Perfect term, I’m going through a tsunami right now myself, and couldn’t describe it any better than that!!

      1. shadus713 – Read the very first post and you'll learn all you need to know about me and why I am here. As in why I am blogging, not the real question of, Why am I here? kinda thing. You're on your own with that.
        shadus713 says:

        No, not yet, didn’t think to search the term, but I will! Brilliant description!

          1. shadus713 – Read the very first post and you'll learn all you need to know about me and why I am here. As in why I am blogging, not the real question of, Why am I here? kinda thing. You're on your own with that.
            shadus713 says:

            Awesome thanks!

          2. shadus713 – Read the very first post and you'll learn all you need to know about me and why I am here. As in why I am blogging, not the real question of, Why am I here? kinda thing. You're on your own with that.
            shadus713 says:

            Beautifully written, I like the last line a lot!

  2. her30s – Woman in her 30's interested and hopefully equally interesting. Dancer turned wannabe writer. Check out my website at www.her30s.com
    her30s says:

    Best advice! You can’t change your partner, sometimes you have to change how you react to them.

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