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  1. Couldn’t agree with this more…I wrote something similar about the “Knight” and “Fear” theory and wasn’t worded as tactfully (it was called “we are all a bunch of users”) as yours.

  2. You make some very good points, and highlight nearly everything I did not necessarily wrong, but certainly not right in my first marriage. The only thing I did completely right was to cultivate a circle of friends who either had the type of relationship I want or lead lives that I admire and aspire to.

  3. sassafrass20 says:

    Oh how I needed this a long time ago-but! I wouldn’t be where I am and who I’ve become without these lessons and faltering. I have only recently come to realize and ACCEPT that I don’t need a partner. Yes, I want someone to share my life with, but I don’t NEED them. Huge steps for me-also acknowledging my fear of being alone and abandoned. I am the classic rescuer, and I am really fighting myself to not be her anymore. Big changes, relatively short time, all for the better!

  1. October 21, 2014

    […] though. Because if you’re projecting damage, you will attract those who want to fix – white knights and enablers. It may feel good for a time, but they need you to remain broken. Is that what you […]

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