So, I realized after I filmed this that I neglected to go into much detail about the time immediately following the suicide attempt (like the text conversation my husband had with my mom – yeah, weird) and what happened with the other wife at that time. All that is detailed in the book along with much more of the humor around the court craziness. It just gets too detailed to try to explain verbally and, truth be told, I wanted to get on to the better stuff:) Hopefully, I won’t make anybody cry with this one!
Before you watch Part 3, please make sure you’ve seen Part 1 and Part 2.
19 thoughts on “My Story – Part 3”
You look so much happier in this one…I am so glad that things did work out for you. GREAT JOB on all the videos!!!
I am so buying you book as soon as I can afford to.
Thanks again for sharing your story and how you made it thorough all the BS that was inflicted on you.
And thanks for the support!
P.S. I FELT happier making this one:)
That is what I want. I don’t want my divorce to define me but be part of my story. Just one piece of the puzzle.
And you can get there!
There are laws regarding dissipation of assets. I’m curious to learn how your ex husband was able to get away with wiping out the bank account without any accountability from the courts. In some states they are legally liable.
Basically, what I kept hearing from attorneys and police is that it’s not fraud if you’re married. The cleaning of the accounts and maxing of the debts occurred before the divorce was initiated, so there were no court orders regarding finances. Even the stuff he was held liable for amounted to nothing since he didn’t follow the decree.
Depends on the state…and the attorney. I believe during a forensic audit, expenses not related to the running of the household and joint responsibilities within a period of time prior to a divorce, if an attorney gave a hoot should have been part of the settlement. This would have made him responsible for reimbursement of any funds he squandered. It sounds like you got the short end of the stick but I’m not surprised. It has nothing to do with ‘fraud’ but dissipation. Fraud has to do with ‘hiding’ the assets, dissipation is the willful spending so there are none…some states will review expenditures I think six months prior to divorce, judges are pretty keen that this goes on quite often. I’m sorry that you were unable to recoup what you were rightfully owed…
Thanks for the info. The part that I found unfortunate was that he never paid the many thousands he was supposed to and I would have had to pay many thousands to take him back to court. That just felt wrong to be victimized and then have to pay to get my own money back.
In the criminal case, I asked for restitution for some of the money he spent on her and wedding-related costs, but that was washed away when the judge decided to go with a diversion. Maybe if he ever is picked up on the warrant, that could still be enforced.
But mainly, I’m just thankful I made it out physically unharmed and I’m 8 months away from paying off the rest f his debt. Life goes on:)
I commend and respect your decision to cut your losses, sometimes it’s the only choice and I wish many more had the wisdom to understand the massive amounts of time and energy wasted on trying to get that ‘last pound of flesh’ in vain. Some you just can’t reach and this is typical of those who deal with those who either are or border on the pathological spectrum. The fastest route to surviving is understanding that with some you have to just let them keep the point and that is the ‘winning’…
…and peace is priceless!
Enjoy in good health and happiness…
Thank you for sharing your story and insights Lisa, it brings me hope and fighting fire. I bought your book a few months ago and aside from the bigamy issue, I am walking in your shoes. I even live in Atlanta if you can believe that. Look forward to more…
Sorry to hear you relate – I wish no one did.
Since you’re a fellow Atlantan, we should meet for coffee sometime!
Following along, even know it gets better I still cringe in parts. This is better though. Still one wishes there were protections from bad acts.
I’ve followed you for awhile but hearing the entirety of your story is really eye opening. It’s so great that you made it out intact, personally. The financial stuff, the criminal stuff, all that’s out of your control and you seem to be in a very healthy place about it. This sounds presumptuous to say but I feel proud to follow you. And so happy. One day I hope to get there myself. I know I’m on the path but there’s a big difference between following it and walking it tall. More power to you…
Thank you for your ongoing support and kind words:) Just keep walking – you’ll get there!
Thank you so much for sharing this, what a journey you made. It’s so nice to see you happy now, you smile through your eyes, beam! You did thrive!