My Story – Part 1 Posted bystilllearning2bJune 10, 2014June 15, 2014Posted inLife's LessonsTags:divorce, husband, lessons from the end of a marriage, life, lisa arends, relationships, story, text And then check out Part 2. Share this:
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Lisa – Having read your blog for a while now, I knew your story somewhat already…but WATCHING you tell it, and listening, was something entirely different. Very, very powerful and extremely moving!
I have so much respect for how you’ve handled the end of your first marriage – and that you’ve turned the experience into something inspiring. I don’t know that I’ve taken the time to comment here before…but I wanted to say thank you for that!!
I had wondered if it was worthwhile putting it on video when I already had it written. You just answered that for me. Thank you:)
Good for you 🙂 Great job. Good idea.
Everytime I hear, or read your story, it brings me to tears. My husband also left me in a heartbeat after never giving me any indication that he was unhappy. Now that I look back there were signs something was
amiss. But of course I invented stories, made assumptions etc. I am so happy you made this video! It’s only been 13 months for me since my life went up in smoke after a 30 year relationship. Difference is, I know where he is and his lifestyle is a far cry from what ours was. He had been leading a double life for at least half of our marriage. It astounds me how someone, anyone, could do these things. I see that telling it still brings tears to your eyes. I cry everyday. Some days more than others. I am still in therapy once a week. And it has destroyed my family in so many ways. We have 3 daughters and 3 grandkids. We are all shattered. The destruction these sociopaths leave is life changing in so many many ways. I am finally starting to see some glimmers of hope for a better life. But right now. I still worry most days about my future. I was a stay at home mother and wife. I relied solely on his income. He led me to believe that I would never have to worry about anything. Fortunately I am still in my home with my oldest and my 3 grandchildren and we are helping each other through the divorce process. She is also in the throws of a divorce. He has continued to support me financially so far. For that I am grateful. But I fear each day that he will do as yours did and flee. I am planning and bracing for that outcome and hope that it never comes to pass. Now to get up the courage to file for divorce. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am grateful and am learning so much from your experience.
That was seriously brave to post your video. Thank you for posting it for women like me that are fresh out of a marriage and are looking for inspiring, strong women to look up too. For me, everything is still very raw, so I have a HUGE flux of emotions that I am trying to sort through. I am so very glad I decided to start the healing process here…there really are some amazing women here-and you are one of them! 🙂
You continue to inspire. Thank you
WOW…That was just emotionally heartbreaking. To make the video and post it took a lot of courage and strength that I don’t have. It actually places a more I guess you could say “human” touch to your writings.
As I have told you before you are a string remarkable woman to make it through everything you went through.
Thank you for making this video ( I look forward to part 2) and keep up the great work. You give me hope that maybe I can fall in love again!!!
I have followed you for some time and always look forward to your posts. I watched the “Karma is…” episode which was great but I agree with the other commentors…watching and listening to you recount your story conveys the raw emotion that accompanies the stories of infidelity and loss that so often get lost, or can not be conveyed in the written word. You show how heart wrenching these experiences are to those of us that who share similar experiences and you validate our feelings. You also tell us that the pain lingers and we should not criticize ourselves for not “getting over it” in the length of time others consider appropriate. I have been divorced now for 5 1/2 years after 27 1/2 years of marriage (and finding out about at least 25 affairs in that period of time, family money spent on meals, trips & gifts, secret separate accounts etc.) I still cry nearly every day and I cried for you today and share your pain. I am certainly looking forward to part 2. Thank you!
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I have always said “Someone has a story worse than yours”. Well, that is definitely true. I just sat breathless through two parts of a divorce horror story. I will pass them on one at a time. I do this for two reasons. The first, to make my point, there is always something worse. The second, for people to know that you are not the only one out there suffering. Everyone has a story.
Your transparency is refreshing and speaks to me and many ways. Divorce is a process and not many people are willing or able to shed light on the emotional process. You have captured everything from wanting answers, to being caught off guard, putting the pieces back together and support from unexpected sources. Thank you for your raw emotions.
OMG, I just cried my eyes out, just when I thought I couldn’t cry more. I found your blog because of a search on my own life ‘issues’ and a search for my own understanding, and am starting this read from the beginning. Oh, the pain you must have gone through, I feel every emotion and am so so so sorry you had to go through this. Right now I am suffering through a similar experience – right down to being blindsided that my husband and father to our three kids, is engaged to another woman. I’ll continue on reading and watching, as I have a lot to catch up on but love your reassurance that we shouldn’t think we have it the worst, and that we are going through something no one has. The more I dive into what I’m going through, the more I realize that it’s not uncommon – and that is just tragic …