He drops to his knee.
Reaches in his pocket and pulls out a small box.
As it opens, you catch the unmistakable sparkle of a diamond.
Or is it?
Perhaps it is merely the suggestion of a diamond, manufactured crystal crafted to resemble the real thing.
So answer this –
Which would you rather receive – a fake diamond or authentic cubic zirconia?
In the first, the ring is presented as authentic, the hard stone born from eons under pressure.
In the latter, the ring is presented as what it is. Somewhat less than ideal, but entirely real.
In my first marriage, I chose the fake diamond of a relationship. On its surface, it was perfect. And I didn’t want to know the truth, the production that made it so beautiful. He told me it was real. Staged elaborate demonstrations to prove it was real. And I bought it, hook line and sinker.
And then, it was as though I went to sell the ring of the marriage in desperate need of money, only to find that it was worth merely pennies.
Now I proudly have a marriage of authentic cubic zirconia. It’s real, not perfect. It took intention and effort to form rather than the accidental and incidental creation of a diamond.
It’s beautiful, reflecting light into the dark corners. No illusion is needed to amplify its sheen.
There is no need to pretend it is more than it is. No need for the dance of words to create perceived value. No need for endless productions to convince others of its authenticity.
What it is is enough.
Imperfections and all.
After all, life is more beautiful with imperfections intact.
When we reveal and even embrace our humanness and accept it in others.
When we work to create beauty rather than illusions.
So, I ask you again. What would you prefer?
A fake diamond
Authentic cubic zirconia?