Will I Ever Trust Again?

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  1. Anonymous says:

    Wow! I’m speechless. That was amazing!

  2. It is definitely THE hardest step.
    Brilliantly analysed.

  3. Ray says:

    AWESOME post! So empowering and inspiring. EVERYTHING begins with yourself. Trust yourself, love yourself. Do these first, and you can tackle anything. Thanks for sharing.

  4. JoyMariah says:

    You WILL! it doesnt feel like it now, but you will! Stay strong, hold onto your faith, and take care of YOU!

  5. I am dealing with this issue now and I really appreciate this post. It’s hard to believe I will trust again, but I will because I dislike the alternative.

  6. Fantastic insight. Right on the money. Thank you.

  7. mombox says:

    Really well articulated, thank you. Wonderful blog.

  8. Reblogged this on Essentially Flawed and commented:
    So had to believe you can??

  9. MLH says:

    all I can say is….thank you

  10. Insight I needed today. This is an issue I am wrestling with right now. Yes, I might relearn trust; in myself and in others. I know that light at the end of the tunnel isn’t a train, pragmatically I know it. My heart tells me otherwise right now.

    Thank you for this, I am grateful.

  11. AddieMarie says:

    Exactly what I needed to read tonight :).

    • Love when timing works out like that:) You can trust!:)

      • AddieMarie says:

        It’s going to take a while, as my wounds are very fresh…but I will get there. Your blog had been a great comfort. 🙂

        • 🙂 I’m glad. Be patient. I know it’s hard. We want to be healed so badly and it takes time. Just know that you can….no you WILL…get there.

          • AddieMarie says:

            I keep having to remind myself to stop, and be in the moment, and feel this. Because I find myself wanting to just run right on past it and I know that will come back to haunt me…I just don’t want to feel like this any more, I want to be normal again.

            • Oh, boy, do I remember that feeling. I would stand on the outskirts of groups and feel so removed, so different. I just wanted so badly to have normal concerns and interactions.

              And, you’re so right about the instinct to try to stay in the moment. It’s tempting to run or hide, but it’s relief is temporary.

              • AddieMarie says:

                Exactly how I’ve been feeling. It’s the worst I think because I’m 24; all my friends are getting married and having babies…and I’m getting divorced. My friend took me to a bar the other day to try to cheer me up, and I felt like I was outside my body just watching everyone interact…
                I want so badly to just get in my car and drive and never come back…find a place to hide where I don’t have to feel these feelings anymore. But I know that’s not healthy…although being where I am isn’t exactly emotionally healthy either.

                • That’s got to be tough at your age, feeling separate from the rest. Do you have older friends and mentors with a bit more life experience around you?

                  • AddieMarie says:

                    Some, who have been great, and my best friends while the same age as me have been incredible. Not to mention my parents have been so helpful, it’s just hard as they live in another state. If I could run away right now I’d probably be in my moms bed crying by tomorrow. I have only told a handle of people though (my blog is under a pen name).

  12. It’s not easy.
    It might take years, at least for me.

  13. LaDulceFrap says:

    You and I share similar stories; Great post. On my journey of learning how to trust again, I realized that you, the individual, never change; you need to change the circumstance for a better outcome.

  14. Beautifully and bravely written.

    It’s also really important to understand why affairs happen. Decades of research support this: people commit infidelity in response to, or escape from, their unaddressed emotional issues. It is NOT the fault of the marriage, or the betrayed spouse, or the internet.

    Sometimes the relationship ends. Sometimes it mends. We’ve been there.

    Laura S
    Executive Director
    Infidelity Counseling Network

  15. Kristin says:

    I needed to read this today. Thank you so very much for posting it and writing it and living it. I have been deeply betrayed, for the second time. I need to feel that I will be able to trust again. Thank you.

  16. Arion Group says:

    I relate very much to the feeling of being dissociated from society, and not knowing whether I’d learn to trust again. Regaining trust in myself was the hardest part. When you find yourself in a situation that almost destroys you, it’s hard to believe you allowed yourself to get into such a mess. It’s been 4 years and a long process, but I’ve discovered strength I never knew I had. In fact, had I remained in my marriage I probably never would have known I was strong enough to survive alone. This is an excellent post about the process of learning to trust again. Thanks so much for writing it!

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