Are You Falling For the Sunk Cost Fallacy in Your Relationship?

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  1. movingliquid says:

    So appropriate for me right now. Thank you.

  2. AddieMarie says:

    So appropriate for me too right now!

  3. Christine says:

    As someone who stayed in a dead relationship for 9 years, I relate fully. I guess I have a high threshold for nonsense since it took me so long to finally get out. From my vantage point now, I don’t know how I didn’t drown years ago… Thank you for your insight.

  4. geminigirl28 says:

    I never looked at it this way. Hmmm……something more to think and blog about. Thanks for this.

  5. I’ve been looking for this term for a long time. Thanks for putting it up.

    It’s hard to separate from the perceived value. Because I’ve sunk so much cost into something, I value it better than another thing. Even if the other thing is really better for me. It’s maddening that our brains work this way.

    Luckily, when I was stuck in a relationship due to this mental fallacy, someone came along and explained the concept to me like in your blog post above. Great entry.

    • Our brains are pretty interesting creatures, aren’t they? I find it crazy that just being aware of a fallacy isn’t always enough to avoid it. Glad you saw through your brain’s machinations:) Thanks for the support!

  6. Great advice.

  7. luckyotter says:

    Reblogged this on a safe place and commented:
    It’s easy to forget that time is valuable too. Sometimes it’s best to just write off what you have invested in a marriage that’s not working.

  8. Well said, and so very true. Thanks!

  9. Lisa Eden says:

    Interesting analogy. What I battled was twofold – children (we have 6) and indecisiveness (whether we were in fact sinking, sailing in choppy water or already sunk). In hindsight, there is far more clarity than when I was going through the storm. As everyone knows when in the throes of relationship challenges and divorce, things can be as clear as mud. Looking back now I realize we were sunk, but being the-ever-optimist, I couldn’t accept it (or see it) then.

  10. Thank you so much! Just confirms I’m on the right path… honestly, this was partly why I waited so long. She kept cheating and lying, but… we’ve been together 21 years.

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