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Lessons From the End of a Marriage

A “How to Thrive” Guide After Divorce

Self Sabotage

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I am about to take a risk.

A calculated one.

A paced one.

But a risk nonetheless.

And I’m scared.

I’m scared I might fail.

I’m scared I’m making a wrong choice.

I’m scared that I’ll have trouble fitting everything in and I’ll lose focus on what’s important.

I’m scared I’ll make people upset.

Or disappointed.

But most of all, I’m scared that it might work.

That it could be the piece I’ve been looking for.

That it could provide me with the freedom I’ve been craving.

Where I am is comfortable. Known. Stable.

But I want more.

I’ve tried before and didn’t quite fail but it wasn’t the answer.

This may be.

It feels right.

But it also feels risky, which makes me want to pull back.

But then I’ll never know what may have been.

Tonight, I am committing to trying.

To risking.

I am making the promise of self support rather than self sabotage.

I started by making a list of all the risks I have taken that have paid off.

One is fresh on my mind.

I took the biggest risk of my life choosing to stay in Atlanta.

Choosing to move near Brock.

Choosing to let myself be vulnerable.

And to let myself love again.

That risked more than anything else ever could.

And I’m happier than ever.

I wonder what this new risk might bring?

At the least, I’ll know I’ve tried.

But hopefully, just hopefully, I’ll be able to add it to my list of successes in another year or two.

I’m going to get myself out of my way, take down the roadblocks of “what if” and enjoy the ride.


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18 thoughts on “Self Sabotage

  1. I am pulling for you. You are ahead of the (my) curve and I want you to succeed. You have been my hero through all of this and I too am staying in Atlanta. You have grown so much and you have so much to look forward to. Keep writing please. It helps so much to know someone that has survived and is thriving…

  2. This post is ME or will be within a year or two but the risk is starting to become real as it gets closer to coming to fruition. And I’m scared to death for all of the things that you mentioned above. 🙂 Thanks for following my new blog so that I could find you here in cyberspace. I needed to hear this. 🙂 xo

  3. Hey Lisa – you “followed” my blog yesterday. I just changed my URL for privacy purposes. If you want to continue to follow me, go to: Thanks! and sorry about that!

  4. Beautiful post.
    Perfect timing for me. For the first time since I started my blog I’ve drawn a blank about what to write about this week. Risk was one of the topics that I’d been thinking about.

    If I decide to do it, I’d love to link to your post.

    Nice how you tie self-sabotage to fear of risk. I’ve never thought of it that way.

    Whatever your new risk, Lisa, I’m rooting for you.

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