Lessons From the Beginning

19 Responses

  1. I love the clarity and wisdom of your writing. And the fact that sometimes a little humor sneaks in there, too. Thank you!

  2. I divorced almost two years ago and began blogging in June 2012, and like you, my writing has shifted focus, as my life as a divorced woman continues to change and evolve. We always will have our past experiences that influence our writing and that we can draw upon, and with new experiences come new lessons to share. Thanks for such great writing!

  3. “After all, for every ending, there is a new beginning. ”
    This says it all. Kudos! Well done.

  4. I have nominated you for the versatile bloggers award. Keep up the great posts!

  5. Well done with your blog and for continuing the writing of your story!
    “If you survive you can tell the story, you can go on. If you don’t survive, that’s it” Maria Belon. Tsunami 2004 survivor.

  6. pandiboy says:

    I’ve just started delving into your blog (as well as starting my own), and I must say that you inspire me to push on. PS – Huge math nerd here. lol

  7. I for one am so glad you didn’t sanitize your blog. As I go through your posts, I’m seeing myself in many parts of your story. I am grateful for the honesty you portray around the pain and the hopefulness in your healing process. I’ll get there too. Thank you.

  8. SLC says:

    I have been separated from my ex husband for only 6 months and divorced about 3 weeks. So I am definitely in the thick of the pain stage. But I thank you for your insight becauae I needed help learning how to move on.
    I was completely blindsided by my divorce, but unlike you I have two amazingly beautiful daughters aged 2 and under. We had been together for 3 years and married for two. We were actively planning and moving towards our future, to me we were in love, date nights, intimacy, great conversations, connection. Then after a business trip, my ex tells me he no longer loves me, and he never did. That everything we had was a friendship for him. I felt like the air was sucked out of the room. We separated and in November he filed for divorce and it was finalized December 4th.
    Its been so difficult. And I haven’t been able to let go. Let go of the hope that he Will realize his error and come back. Let go of what we had. Let go of ever thing that is no longer a reality. It has literally consumed me. Ive been searching for help online. And i have encounterd the ‘sanitizers and purgers’ and they have been counter productive. But this blog is a ray of hope. I feel validated and stronger.
    Yes it is a daily struggle and I’m in this for the long run. But I thank you for being the catalyst in my journey after the end of a marriage.

    • I am so sorry to hear that you are in the midst of your own tsunami. It is such a shock when you learn that what you thought was real, isn’t. It is absolutely crazy making, and you find yourself endlessly questioning everything. Be patient with yourself – it takes time to let go of the past. But also know that you can let go. You can be okay again. You can learn to trust again. And you can love again. Unlike the sanitizers, I won’t sugarcoat it – it’s a difficult and nonlinear road. But it is also a road that can lead to a better life than you can even imagine. I’m glad you’re here. Give those precious girls of yours a hug for me:)

      • Anonymous says:

        Thank you so much. It is still going to be a huge journey, but I’m thankful to have found this blog. Cheers to a happier and healthier year. Congratulations on your wedding πŸ™‚ And yes, I gave my oh so yummy girls a huge hug on your behalf πŸ˜‰

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