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Guiltwashed

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  1. Chico says:

    Be sure that you record a legal document through the court and with the recorder’s office regarding your share of the house, even though you won’t have your name on the loan…

  2. Personally, I like the idea that an emotion exists in the form of an energy, simply seeking to be acknowledged then sent on its merry way. Acknowleding only recognizes its existence with giving it no more or no less power than any other emotion.
    I think holding on to an emotion allows it to morph into something it was never meant or needs to be and gives it more power than it deserves.
    I guess I’ve come to accept that I need not own what is not mine to carry.
    I am quite sure that deriving personal pacifiers from others responsibilities moved me along the codependency trail all too easily.
    Either way, stay strong. It sounds like you have gleaned as much personal growth from this experience as you have from every other adversity you have faced.
    Kudos.

  3. What is meant by a ‘note’? Is that the loan? I presume and hope that you will still be legal part-owner of the house. Tricky situation about the loan, but one I am sure that you will get through.
    Interesting point on the esteem. I had read elsewhere that optimistic people see events as causing catastrophes and themselves as being responsible for any good in their lives; whereas pessimists always blame themselves for the catastrophes and sit and wait for something else to make good things happen to them.
    I for one think you are an optimist as you have striven for a better life and worked at your physical fitness etc. Good health for instance does not just ‘happen’.

    • Interesting. I had not thought of it that way. I see myself as a realistic optimist:) I definitely believe that I seek out (and work my but off for!) positive change.

      Yes, the note is the loan. There’s a little bit we can do legally at this point but the longer term goal is to refi in a couple years and put me on the loan too.Until a certain amount of time has passed, the banks pretty much treat me as a leper.

  4. I am a guilt carrier, myself. I will have to look up that podcast, it sounds like a good one. The nice thing about the hassle of paperwork and buying a house is that once it’s over, it’s over. At least you have something to look forward to!

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