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  1. mommabella3 says:

    Wow…I didn’t realize what bigamy was until I Googled it just now. My ex was married the whole time we were engaged, but never bothered to tell me until he realized he wouldn’t be able to divorce her in time for the wedding I nearly ordered invitations for. He says he was just helping her stay in the country, and though I forgave him, I found out after the third child was born that he had deceived me in more ways than one. I’m with you on staying positive. I wasn’t always like that either, but it’s made me strong and I’m pretty much like, “Bring it on…I can handle it.” KUDOS to you 🙂

    • Maybe he’s one of the people that has found me by googling “how to get away with bigamy.” No joke – I get at least one of those a day!

      Glad to hear you’re on the other side (and that the invitations were never sent!) and staying positive:)

  2. Melanie says:

    I get a bit of dismay at my positive attitude, but, like yours, it was a long time coming. I was angry and bitter and wished torture and death on my ex for months, but no more. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still angry, very very angry, but instead of directing it towards me (which is what I was doing even when I was hating him) I have directed it into the fight I am fighting now. There’s no way I could keep up the strength to work towards reversing custody if I spent every day angry at what it is now. Time helped (even though I swear that is the worst of the worst of all the four-letter words), perspective helped, and forgiving myself helped. I can laugh, I can recognize I am happy with most parts of my life, and I can sleep, all because I can keep my attitude in check now.

  3. Eben says:

    Beautiful. Been there. And I like cooking to death metal too. Thanks.

  4. “…now I don’t allow them to move in. They visit and go on, leaving room for laughter again”.
    Two huge positive steps; recognising that these feelings will still visit, allowing them in and letting them go.
    Great post.

  5. Thanks for letting me camp out in your blog for a little while today. I had a great time and tried to leave my campsite as good as when I arrived. I’ll be back in a couple of weeks!

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