How to Apply Labels

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  1. Very timely for me. Thanks!

  2. still learning to trust says:

    I like the Cliff Note idea, very soft, non judgemental, acceptable and with a “post it note” attachment, thanks!

  3. RunToInspire says:

    I thinks its our nature to put people in boxes,but we have to strive to tear people oit of them from fime to time

  4. Great explanation of what labels are. I like how in the beginning this can be used in schools- in a positive manner. Thank you.

  5. halffull22 says:

    I love your explanation of labels as ‘shorthand’ or ‘cliffnotes’. The word ‘label’ has such a negative connotation, it’s interesting to see it explained like that.

    • Thanks! I think I developed that idea with teaching. I never really looked at kid’s labels as a bad thing in the way I actually use them in school. I don’t let the label lower my expectations of a kid; it just gives me an idea of the struggles that I might face in getting them to where I want them to be.

  6. reocochran says:

    I think everything you said made sense! In between, though, you showed a sense of humor! Serious stuff, you feel PTSD, your ex is a sociopath, and it was like a tsunami. All true but also humorous, to me! I think many of your ideas are like mine were after my second divorce, I know it is weird to think but I was 31 years old, was a single mom of 3,… some overlapping areas. My ex was a womanizing, unfaithful jerk. I don’t think he was the same, just a wolf with a different set of clothing from your ex!

  7. I was very careful not to ever label or obtain the diagnosis for any of my children of ADHD or learning problems. However, it was definitely good knowing the labels existed so that I could read books on the topics to develop strategies so I could assist them with similar “symptoms” and “difficulties”!!

    Likewise the labels for ex-husbands! 🙂

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