“It’s not fraud if you’re married,” the policeman said apologetically. As I registered his words, the enormity of what I was facing became clear.
My ex-husband and I first established a household together in our late teens. We came together with nothing. We opened up joint accounts and scrupulously managed every dime that came in from our low paying jobs. In those early years, we did all of the finances together, talking through options and discussing goals. Read the rest on the Huffington Post.
Or, you can also hear me talk about it on The Jeff Probst Show.
Great article! My favorite part was:
“I am also thankful for the lessons I have learned. I’ve come to realize that there is a difference between trust and complacency. I seek evidence to back up claims and I don’t take someone’s word quite so easily anymore. I have put fraud alert on my life. Additionally, I learned how strong I can be. I had two fears in life: losing my husband and losing my financial security. Three years ago, I faced them both and lived to tell the tale. I’m just looking forward to the day when I am no longer paying for those lessons.”
I can relate to that. 🙂 Thanks for always writing such great articles!
And thanks for reading 🙂
Fraud is exactly what it is. I told my ex the same sort of thing. She did not embezzle, but the lies and deception of her affair while we were making enormous financial decisions had the same effect on me. Had I partaken in that level of deceit in my business, I would be in jail. My fears were similar to yours. Losing my marriage and family and losing my financial security and like you I am looking forward to the time when I am no longer paying for those lessons. Peace to you.
And to you. I have faith we will make through to the other side of this mess and be better off than we were before.
Lisa, this is incredible. It sounds like an airing of the Mentalist or something. My hope continues to go out to you and your healing, although you do appear to be stronger than most, at least by now. I tried watch the TV show but never made it past the Push Girls, more girls with life-changing obstacles and strength. And didn’t I read somewhere in there the word ‘bigomist? How does he have time to fit that in there too? I really think you are doing well for yourself since the rebound with a book and TV show and all. I can only imagine how much is left to heal. xx
I said from the beginning that my life felt like a movie. I’m actually doing quite well (3 1/2 years out) emotionally now. It’s been a long road, but a good journey in many ways. Really, at this point, my only deep wounds are financial and I know those will heal in time as well. Thanks for your support.