One Step at a Time

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  1. This is a great article, and I can’t believe the similarities between you and I. I too have been running for five years, and like you, I started by running as far as I could each time. Like you, that left me with overuse injuries! Also like you, I am doing my first marathon this October! And I recently wrote a post about breaking through my own barrier–14 miles!! I felt like I was reading my own blog! Haha!
    Anyway, I love how you compared this to relationship. I also went through a divorce, but am now remarried, and this comparing marathons to a relationship is something I can relate to. My husband and I love each other very much, but we do argue quite a bit. I like the advice you give here, and I’m going to take it: “Think about what you want in a relationship and then look at what you need to do yourself to prepare for that reality.” I can so relate to this because it takes so much preparation and consistency to prepare for a marathon. It makes sense that I would give the same efforts for a marriage. Thank you. And thanks for linking to me too, as I never would have found this blog without it. 🙂

    • That is too funny! Did you start running after the divorce? I have met so many people who take up training after the end of a marriage. I know for me it was a relief to undertake a challenge with a known duration and an actual finish line.

  2. foroneplease says:

    Absolutely true… and now I’m defi gonna check out The 5 languages of love.. thanx 🙂

  3. smirkpretty says:

    Such a simple, powerful analogy. I really needed to read this. Physical training has always come easy. Discipline in love, not so much. I am erratic and unprepared in my intimate relationships, and the mistakes do me in long before we find our stride. I really appreciate the idea of carrying the clear practices from my fitness regimen over to a place where I clearly need some structure. Looks like I’ll have to be my own love coach. Oy!

    • I’m glad it helped you:) I think we all can benefit from applying our strengths in one area to our weakness in another. I wish you the best with your new dating structure!

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