During Divorce: Make New Friends but Keep the Old

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  1. Kat says:

    I wish I had some of this advice when I got divorced several years ago! It was extremely difficult and painful. Unfortunately, all of “our friends” became “his friends.” I literally started over. I forced myself to be more outgoing at work, willing to invite people out for drinks, pool, or what have you. Over the years, I’ve grown beyond belief and now I do things that I never would have done before!

    Great advice….thanks for sharing it.


  2. This is such wisdom. I’m almost a year out after a 30 year marriage. Our friendships had dwindled – I now think that’s because most of our friends knew about his infidelity and just couldn’t be around either of us. I sure wish someone had respected me enough to just tell me the truth. Anyway – I am now rekindling friendships from high school. That is so crazy to me. These people not only shared a past but they knew me before I was so hurt and traumatized. Some I hadn’t seen in 20 years! They’re filling in the gaps. But I struggle to find new friends – many acquaintances say things like, “If you want to talk…” or “If you need anything…” but I’ve learned that those are only words and few really mean them. It’s disheartening. But onward I go. I’m going to check out some of your suggestions. Thanks so much!

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