I have a doctor’s appointment today. I just finished printing and filling out the forms ahead of time so that I would be prepared (I’m a planner, remember?). Things went smoothly until I got to this question:
Marital Status: ____Single ____Married_____Divorced____Widowed
I could come up with a reason for me to select each one:
Divorced: well, yes, but it does not define me
Single: technically, as I am not under legal obligation to be bound to another
Married: not legally, but in spirit, as I am committed to a long term partner with whom I reside
Widowed: not in the strict sense, but emotionally, as my ex severed all contact as abruptly as if he had died
I think I need a new category:
_____ I’m divorced, but that does not define me. I’m not really single, either. Nor married, although that comes closer to the truth. I’m in a long term, monogamous, and cohabitating relationship. No, I’m not sure if I’ll make it legal. Why? Well, I’m not having kids, so there is not that to worry about. Also, I no longer see any “protection” from the legal stamp. So, I’ll just keep it the way it is, thank you: we are together each day because we choose to be together each day. That is all.
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Maybe we should just stop answering that question, or begin demanding a “none of your business” box to check.
True! 🙂
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