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Where Is He Now?

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  1. todays date says:

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  2. Katie says:

    I am proud that from the moment we broke up, I blocked my ex and unlinked us online everywhere I could think of. I didn’t want to see what he was up to, and I have never looked him (or the woman he left me for or his new girlfriend two weeks after that) up. I was lucky that nothing tricky was going on financially, but that’s only because I took half of the cash in our bank account and left a few days after it officially ended and made peace with the fact he was destroying our house and letting it go into foreclosure. I lit a match and walked away. And when he got a little sideways to me about something, I threatened to have all correspondence go through MY lawyer and make his life a living hell since he was too lazy to hire one. He never said a peep or caused any trouble to me after that. Our divorce was finalized a year later. We only spoke four times during that last year I think.

    I feel like people come into my life for a reason, but also leave it for a reason. I’m the bouncer to this fabulous club called Katie’s Life and I’ll be damned if people like him make it past the velvet rope. I commend you for not keeping tabs on your ex-husband anymore. Your life deserves better, and you’re living it. 🙂

    • I love that – the bouncer of your own life. What a cool way to look at it! Thanks:)

      • katieswanberg says:

        Thanks! I heard that somewhere else and adopted it. I’m not perfect – sometimes unruly and undeserving people make it past the entrance, but security (my best friend and boyfriend) spots them and helps clear them out! Team effort.

  3. Its always best to stop keeping tabs on your ex so that you can move on…I am currently going through my divorce so desperately waiting for the day when I can stop keeping tabs so that he cannot harm me. But till then, keep your friends close and enemies closer…sigh.

    • It’s true. My daily routine was to do what I could to track his whereabouts. I hated it but was too scared not to know where he was or what he may be doing. Many people are surprised that I can resist looking him up (especially when I do receive new information), but I have no desire to ever Google his name again. Good bye and good riddance.

      How much longer do you think you have before it’s final?

  4. I can relate to that. I still track all his activities every day so that he cannot spring a nasty surprise on me once again. But yes, like you, once this is over I will not be compelled to look him up ever again. Awaiting the day when I can finally say good riddance to bad rubbish.

    Hopefully it should be final in another 2-3 months.

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