The Most Important Lessons
Often, the lessons we need most are the ones we are most resistant to. I never wanted to be divorced. In fact, losing my husband, through any means, was my […]
Category Archives: Healing From Trauma
I Did It. I Finally Did It.
It may seem as though I have slain all of the demons from my past. I can look at pictures without tears. I’m no longer fueled by anger. I have […]
Fear of Commitment?
Are you afraid of commitment? Have you been in a relationship with someone who experiences trepidation at the thought of pledging devotion? We tend to think of people who shy […]
Igniting the Conversation
Relationship trauma will do strange things to you. With my ex, I was never timid about initiating a conversation about a potentially difficult topic. I would even wake him up […]
Of Teddy Bears and Security Systems
For most of my married life, I felt secure. I had a husband that I trusted. I owned a home and had been at the same job for many years. […]
Rebooting: Are You in Safe Mode?
Divorce is a major reboot of your life. Control-Alt-Del of all that is familiar. The process can vary, some may have time to save and safely exit their open files. […]
A(void)
He had lost himself. Somewhere along the way, he no longer knew who he was. Did the depression come first, leading him astray? Or did the depression tag along, following […]
Blame – Continuing the Conversation
So why do we play the blame game at the end of a marriage, assigning guilt like we’re tallying points in a shuffleboard match? Why does it have to turn […]
Trigger Points
As a runner and weight lifter, I am very familiar with trigger points – painful balls of muscle or fascia caused by acute or repeated trauma. They are hyperirritable, overresponding […]
Self Deception
Self deception was the cancer that ate my marriage from within. After he was caught, my husband admitted in a text to my mom that he had started to […]
