The Marshmallow Test
In the Stanford marshmallow experiment, young children were placed alone in a room with a single marshmallow. They were told that if they left the marshmallow alone until the experimenter […]
Category Archives: Deception and Betrayal
An Open Letter to the IRS
I have written before about my experiences with the Innocent Spouse relief program with the IRS. I have now received refunds for all of the years in question (I cried […]
I Did It. I Finally Did It.
It may seem as though I have slain all of the demons from my past. I can look at pictures without tears. I’m no longer fueled by anger. I have […]
Blame – Continuing the Conversation
So why do we play the blame game at the end of a marriage, assigning guilt like we’re tallying points in a shuffleboard match? Why does it have to turn […]
Self Deception
Self deception was the cancer that ate my marriage from within. After he was caught, my husband admitted in a text to my mom that he had started to […]
The Blame Game
Why is it that some people (those who have never been divorced, or even married, I would suspect) are so quick to lay blame on the end of a marriage. […]
Where Are Your Guard Towers?
I had an extensive collection of guard towers in my marriage. They stood side by side, almost forming an impenetrable wall that encircled the union. Each one was fully staffed […]
Learning to Trust Myself
The hardest part of learning to trust after betrayal has been learning to trust myself. My fiance and his cousin, both huge Ravens fans, were lucky enough to score […]
Classification of Infidelity
In a recent piece on The Huffington Post, Dr. Mark Banschick describes four outcomes after a cheater is caught or decides to come clean:1) the cheater can make amends and […]
