Comments on: There’s No Shame in Asking for Help http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/2012/05/02/theres-no-shame-in-asking-for-help-2/ There is life after divorce Thu, 16 May 2013 18:03:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: shaming shame « power of language blog: partnering with reality by JR Fibonacci http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/2012/05/02/theres-no-shame-in-asking-for-help-2/#comment-1624 Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:12:28 +0000 http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/?p=1595#comment-1624 [...] There’s No Shame in Asking for Help (lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com) [...]

]]> By: Damsel In Distress « lessonsfromtheendofamarriage http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/2012/05/02/theres-no-shame-in-asking-for-help-2/#comment-1363 Wed, 13 Jun 2012 18:37:56 +0000 http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/?p=1595#comment-1363 [...] I have written before, there is no shame in asking for help, but there should be a timer set on assistance.  Take that hand, but know when it is time to let [...]

]]> By: Rick http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/2012/05/02/theres-no-shame-in-asking-for-help-2/#comment-876 Fri, 04 May 2012 18:18:04 +0000 http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/?p=1595#comment-876 Only a truly humble person has the ability to ask for help and accept it. There is no need of resisting help to the point of being beaten down by whatever it is at the time. Help from others and helping others are equally important in life. Both have been a saving grace during my lifetime.

]]> By: thatprecariousgait http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/2012/05/02/theres-no-shame-in-asking-for-help-2/#comment-823 Wed, 02 May 2012 01:41:47 +0000 http://lessonsfromtheendofamarriage.com/?p=1595#comment-823 I’m always surprised when people believe that it’s weak to ask for help during divorce or after another huge loss. I think, in some ways, it’s a form of arrogance to believe that we are fully equipped and trained to address life’s most stressful moments. We are a society that focuses on the happy endings. We shelter our children from harsh realities as we were sheltered. Very, very few of is adequately equipped to handle enormous loss entirely on our own.

I do think, however, that there are some very poor doctors who will prescribe meds with no other support and even more poor therapists who do not serve their clients well, so I commend your encourgement that people search for assistance that best suits them and feels “right.” I would second that and encourage people to persevere even if the first or second doctor or therapist doesn’t “fit.” Taking care of ourselves in that time is crucial and important for everyone around us, both those we have to care for and those who care about us. Investing some time in that endeavor is neither wasteful nor weak. :-)

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