Comments on: What Set Theory Can Teach Us About Marriage

By: Them’s the Rules – A Blogging Year in Review « Lessons From the End of a Marriage

Sun, 30 Dec 2012 13:01:53 +0000

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By: Mutually Exclusive « lessonsfromtheendofamarriage

Mutually Exclusive « lessonsfromtheendofamarriage — Thu, 04 Oct 2012 21:45:16 +0000

[...] going to teach you a math lesson; I’ve been doing that all day. It just turns out, that like Venn diagrams and marriage, there is a connection here to the real world. (Side note: If you have kids, please do not tell [...]

By: clownonfire

clownonfire — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 22:20:20 +0000

Good. Now let’s be friends.
Le Clown

By: stilllearning2b

stilllearning2b — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 22:19:50 +0000

So little in life is linear…except in my algebra classroom, that is:)

By: clownonfire

clownonfire — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 22:18:35 +0000

I’m back, and your comment seems to fit best with what I feel about my relationship; that at different times, it might have been any of the diagrams, but not in a linear fashion, that they interchanged one another, depending on the time… This makes sense to me…
Le Clown

By: Rick

Rick — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 21:49:14 +0000

Maybe only during a “honeymoon” phase but couldn’t a complete union, where all values of each are equal, exist also? To have been young and in love at one time, all I saw in my partner was the reflection of my feeling toward her.
Then by the same token a non-union is possible (or maybe that is called divorce if left unresolved)? Over time many couples may grow apart for various reasons; most overcome it, some learn to live with it and others eventually divorce.
However, that is only an observation of my experience. I do think relationships 1)do not remain in one realm over time and 2)the heart of a successful one lays in the vows taken by each person (with or without a ceremony).

By: clownonfire

clownonfire — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 10:37:30 +0000

I will have to think about this one, but I think my wife and I are in the “Union” subset… I’ll be back with this one.
Le Clown

By: stilllearning2b

stilllearning2b — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 09:57:49 +0000

I would guess that most relationships have or have had aspects of each diagram. I think it takes some wisdom, experience, and a letting go of fear to be able to fully embrace the union model.

By: I Do. Me 2.

I Do. Me 2. — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 01:44:46 +0000

I must say that this question was an intriguing challenge for me. I believe that our marriage is more like the first choice (Union Diagram) according to your description, “each partner brings his or her whole self to the marriage and loses nothing when their lives overlap.” However, this is a relationship that developed over time. There were times that I felt as if I had lost elements of myself. But I realized that I had actually put them aside because I thought that it was required. I am still learning that much of my self denial was self inflicted based upon my own presuppositions.

In fact the more that I consider the various diagrams, I might have related to each symbol in one period of time concerning our marriage.

Thank you for this post. DrMJ